I watch GMA just about every morning and I was quite surprised when I turned on the TV in the beginning of the year and noticed your hair “appeared” straight. I hoped to myself “I hope she’s just trying something new”. Two weeks into the year, I see that it’s not a trial hairstyle, Robin has gone back to the world of the relaxed. So a girl like me can’t help but wonder aloud… Robin, what made you decide to go back to a life of relaxed hair? Did you not enjoy the carefree life of the wash and go, allowing you to be instantly ready, straight out the shower? Wasn’t it nice to not have to run when a storm cloud threatened rain? Aren’t you going to miss the extra time you had to yourself now that you have to spend it in a salon every 3-4 weeks to keep such a short cut laying perfectly flat?
I know you are not your hair, none of us are. But I can say without a shadow of a doubt that so many ladies who wear their hair natural have been absolutely overjoyed to have a daytime, public figure who so openly wears her hair in its beautiful natural state, regardless of the circumstances.
My love for you hasn’t changed, Robin. I still find your battle and conquering of breast cancer to be inspiring and courageous. I still find your personality warm, funny, and endearing. I still love your style and image. I just miss being able to crack an extra smile when I turn on my tv and see a power black woman unconsciously making a statement to an audience of younger black women that you can be successful without having the image we’re “expected” to have.
Every house hold has their own set of essentials, from a particular brand of laundry detergent to sheets with 800 thread count; we’re all particular about something that is a must have in our home. In my home, rosemary, lavender, basil, lemon, and ylang ylang are my must have essential oils. I call them my Essential Oil Arsenal. These five oils make it possible for my life to go on from day to day.
Lavender and rosemary, in my eyes, are the goddesses of essential oils. They serve so many purposes; I can’t imagine life without them. The calming properties of lavender are what ensure I get a good night of rest. It manages my unpleasant disposition (read – Level Red anger) when things aren’t going my way. It even plays a role in enhancing the lengthy, luxurious tresses that I am blessed with. The rosemary plays a role in that as well as they both encourage hair growth. The rosemary is also vital in the oils blend I burn in a diffuser to help me dig down into a hard day’s work. I burn it early in the morning; that way my son gets to reap the effects of the “magical focus” promoting blend and we’re both on our way to successful, productive days.
The lemon and basil oils are key players in the focus inducing blend in additional to the rosemary. Nothing better than a little productivity, right? The lemon plays multiple roles; when I’m looking for a little variety in the night time bath relaxation ritual, I add it to the lavender to guarantee I’ll get some sleep. Lemon has some chameleon like qualities though (shh…don’t tell anyone it’s secret) The citrus combination of lemon, lime, orange, and even a little grapefruit will perk you up in the morning too. The basil is excellent for managing my oily hair, my migraines, and coping with the occasional case of the blues (hey I get down sometimes; we all do!)
Ylang ylang keeps the peace in my home. I don’t burn it often but when I do it’s because someone has had a really rough day and I want to put them at ease. There’s no worse feeling for us as the women in our homes than to see any of our family feeling down and out. I use the Seductive scent from the le’amour body line sporadically when I want to set the mood in my house, since it’s blended with just enough of the scent to make any night a memorable one.
No matter what the circumstance, I always remember “I can tackle all things through the essential oils that strengthen me! “ What are some of the common feelings/emotions in your household that could benefit from a little aromatherapy?
The lovin’ was good, and then it started to disintegrate. Before you knew what happened, it completely fell apart and someone crossed the line of infidelity. Tears were shed, apologies were replaced with pleas and you’ve decided this relationship is worth saving.
I’d venture to guess that something wasn’t working before all this mess started which led to the current problem at hand now. How do we fix this? Let’s consider the Law of Attraction and how it can be applied to mending a ‘broken’ relationship
Ellie Walsh, Law of Attraction Trainer & Life Coach, talks about the subject in depth in her article “Can This Relationship Be Saved?” An except from her article that I really believe that everyone should take and run with, even if you take nothing else from it reads:
Living the Law of Attraction – Living Life – is not about blame, it is not about who is right or wrong nor is it about guilt or fault – It is all about creation…
So if I am living within a relationship that is not going well – I need to:
#1 accept that — this relationship is not going as I would like it to…
#2 – I created this!
OK I see a few people cringing….
I did not say the bruised relationship is your fault — nor did I say it is the other person’s fault….
I did not say the other person is right — nor did I say you are right….
To live the life of the Power-filled being that you already are – You need to take these words out of your vocabulary –
Blame
Fault
Guilt
Right
Wrong
Take that and process it. Really sit and think on it. Then apply it to the rekindling of the love that you have deemed with saving. Talk it over with your mate, and as you two work at it daily, reclaim the love that you once shared.
Every day, many of us are on the internet for business and for pleasure, often times meeting people for one reason or another. Just as in the real world (or ‘IRL’ in chat terms), constant communication with someone of the opposite sex can lead to an emotional bond, a mutual attraction, and if left unchecked, into an affair.
An affair of the heart is an affair of the heart, no matter where the two hearts find each other. Dr. Sheri Meyers, a licensed marriage and family therapy expert talks about the signs to watch for when you suspect your mate might be in the midst of a cyber affair.
Have you or someone you know every experienced a partner in the midst of an online affair? Do you have any additional suggestions on how to handle dealing with the affair?
If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of advice for all humanity, it would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, “I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me.”
-Ann Landers
What’s keeping you down? Do you know you are bigger and better and capable of defeating it? Some times we need to hear what we know to be true from someone else. It rings a little truer that way. Life is hard; life is not always fair; but isn’t the reward of the many times that it is good to you worth the hard parts?
Release your burdens, your difficult and ‘unfair’ moments. Let them out to people who really care and let them love and confort you back into a place where you know in your head and feel in your heart that you are capable of anything and everything.
My love for you hasn’t changed, Robin. I still find your battle and conquering of breast cancer to be inspiring and courageous. I still find your personality warm, funny, and endearing. I still love your style and image. I just miss being able to crack an extra smile when I turn on my tv and see a power black woman unconsciously making a statement to an audience of younger black women that you can be successful without having the image we’re “expected” to have.
